Being a nurturing parent means adjusting your child’s behaviors, not trying to change them. In other words,
change the behavior, not the child.
1. Let them Know that Mistakes are Okay
I get excited when my son makes a mistake because it gives me the opportunity to teach him, which is what
parenting is all about. Address your child’s mistakes in a nurturing way to help them learn and grow without
feeling bad about themselves. Let your child know that everyone makes mistakes. Don’t get angry at them
when they make a mistake but take the time to explain how they can do better next time. Look at it as a time to
help your child improve so they can feel good about who they are. The most important thing is to let them
know that mistakes are okay.
2. Redefine Their Weaknesses
Every child has behavioral weaknesses. Some get mad when they don’t win and physically show their anger by
acting out. Others are very sensitive and cry every time they are disappointed or sad. From one end of the
spectrum to the other, your child will have a range of emotions.
The first key to redefining your child’s behavior is to redefine your perspective. For example, you may think
that the only thing you can do
to alleviate your child acting like a poor sport is to remove them from situations
that trigger these behaviors, like eliminating sports from their schedule.
Or, if your child cries at the drop of the hat, you may decide that they should not participate in situations where
they may cry yet another time. This perspective focuses on the child and not the behavior.
Instead, turn your attention to what their behavior really means and create a course of action that helps them
funnel their personalities and behaviors in a more positive and productive way, which begins with nourishing
and not negating their innate passions and skills.
3. Nourish their Skills
If you look ahead to a scenario in the future, you can see how a child who was identified as bulle Headed or a
bad sport might use that passion and fire that drove him to want to be the best into becoming an amazing CEO
of a company, dedicated and committed to being the very best.
Or, the child who cries a lot may become an adult of compassion and empathy, a caring parent, and a person
who wants to change the world for the better. None of this can happen if their behaviors are stifled instead of
Try not to stifle the passions and emotions that make your child who they are. Instead, consider how you can
help them modify their behaviors so that their passions and innate talents are nourished as they grow. This
requires providing ways that they can be who they are through positive reinforcement of who they already are,
which ultimately helps them
become thriving and successful adults.